Saturday, October 27, 2007

Ohhh...Mass Emails

Dear Fertile Sister In Law,

Thank you for the wonderful mass email you've included me on to detail your new baby's progress. I feel so freaking delighted that you have produced a perfect specimen of a person. I am also so happy that you haven't let my infertility be a downer on your happiness and mention it or make any allowances for it. I would have hated for you to go to the trouble of writing a seperate, sensitive email just for me. That would simply be uncalled for.

It's so wonderful that you'll never have to feel the absolute terror at the thought of never having an opportunity to "naturally" have a baby. That you might never "unnaturally" have a baby. That babies may not figure in your life at all. It's also just grand that you don't realise that your email may have a devestating effect on my sanity. After all, I am just delighted with your baby news. Thanks for not-asking how I'm doing. It really touched me.

Infertily yours,
The Barren One (aka as your Stranger in Law)

13 comments:

The Town Criers said...

I cannot even begin to tell you how much I love Stranger-in-Law. Could be describing my own relationship with my own SIL...

JJ said...

Ohh man...I am sorry about the insensitivity--Im getting that a LOT lately!
Came over to you from Lost and Found--I will be checking in on you!

Schatzi said...

Also found you through l&f. First of all, I LOVE the name of your blog. One of those times that I wonder "Why didn't I think of that!". As for this letter. Ouch. I am sorry that you have a SIL who was insensitive enough to be the inspiration.

Good luck on ICSI Take 2!

decemberbaby said...

OMG, I love your letter to the SIL. PLEASE tell me you sent it!

(welcome to the IF blogosphere. I hope your stay in IF country is short and supported)

Bean said...

OMG -- I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that, but I'm laughing my ass off at your "response".

ekunkelmann said...

Your SIL sucks, but you are awesome.

chicklet said...

I've soooo thought those things but never put it in writing, or nearly thought it out so well. Gawd people have no clue.

Erin said...

I found you through Mel, and this made me laugh out loud--I'm sorry that you got that but you really made me laugh! It would be even better if you'd really sent it. Then again, it would probably go right over her head!

May said...

Here via Mel... laughing myself sick. Thank you. This was just perfect.

Trish said...

*STANDS & CHEERS*

Kay said...

Love, love, love this post.

Not Afraid to Use It said...

Here via SQ. I so could have written this email a few years ago. In the time I went through my infertility treatments, 10 (yes, that would be TEN) friends and family members got preggo. I thought it had to be the world's biggest joke. I mean, come ON! Oh god, the pain of those pictures and emails.

Jendeis said...

Also found you through Mel. You are beyond awesome! My SIL expounded upon how fertility treatments should not be allowed because they are unnatural. And too bad for anyone who can't get pregnant on their own.

When I pointed out to her that gee, she got pregnant with both her kids with no problems and therefore, didn't know a G.D. thing about anything (or something more subtle), she was like, "yeah, but you just shouldn't have kids, if you can't have them naturally." So, I'm giving her the big FU.